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I thought I should share my knowledge and what I have been learning lately in my evolutionary psychology module. Now you may not know this but evolutionary psychology has a few very interesting points in human dating, which may be of interest to you.
I will be putting up a series of posts about different points and topics on psychology and apply it to real life situations, so if you find this post interesting you should be on the lookout for the upcoming posts with á la psychology on it!
“Evolution has favored women who prefer men possessing those attributes that confer benefits and who dislike men possessing those attributes that impose costs.”
Still I see loads of women, young and old, going through the same types of problems every day. It seems as though we always seem to 1 shape men to be good for other women or 2 just been hurt and meet the great guy (that the previous girl has shaped) and fuck him up by not being ready. It is all a vicious circle!
That may sound a bit simple and perhaps really untrue, since some of us do not ever leave the troubling man as he still gives us some good days.
But to my point. If selection really favored women who prefer men possessing the good attributes and disliked men who possess attributes that bring us more sorrow than happiness; then why the hell do I see all these great women with looser guys?!!?!??!?!
These women are giving all their best to these men, their youth, life, children, love and they are doing all this AND being patient.
All this time this knowledge has been here and it may sound soooo simple; to require MORE from men! To only take what you truly deserve!!! I cannot stress this enough. AND once that guy does come along; make sure you are ready for him.
And now I know this is true because I as other women have also been in a relationship where I was the primary person that was giving, the one being patient. For a little over 3 years, I did this.
I gave that man all my energy, money, love, passion, understanding, motivation, WELL YOU NAME IT!
And all I got in return essentially was a slacker!
He was slacking in all the areas of his life and today I feel sorry for him! I really do hope that he will be able to find another woman that is as dedicated as I was to him, and that this time around he will be ready for it.
Although it took me ages to realise what I actually deserved, I finally did!
I can finally give myself the chance to be natural selections prime woman! The kind of woman that will be successful on her OWN and in the future in a successful Relationship.
I will take my time and find a man that truly appreciates all parts of me.
So should you!
Now this process may be more difficult if there are children involved, I appreciate that. However: if you do not have kids; then put that man in his place and make him realise that it takes more to deserve what you are giving him and if that does not work then FUCKING MOVE ON!
It may seem as though there are no fish in the sea but work on yourself, focus on yourself AND YOU WILL FINALLY ATTRACT THE RIGHT FISH! A DESERVING FISH!
Stop being so afraid of; whatever demons you are fleeing, by constantly having the need of being with someone. Now if it is not any problems about a specific whatever, you may just be fleeing the fact of being alone.
I have my sister; Paow. She is my soulmate and makes my loneliness not feel lonely at all!
& Once that man comes along I will be ready for him.
So find your Paow and work on yourself & you WILL be the woman that Evolution favors!
until next time!
Advice straight from my bed!
Paow & KimTasch